Where have you come from, and who were you 5 or 10 or even 20 years ago? It’s a question that might seem odd at first, but it holds a profound significance. Recently, I’ve had numerous discussions with individuals who find themselves in a distinctly different place today than five years ago—both in their surroundings and in their personal development. Throughout these conversations, several common themes emerged that have catalyzed this transformation. There is a newfound appreciation for themselves and others, along with an increased awareness of past negative self-talk, which many are actively working to change.
Moreover, there’s an admirable willingness to delve deeper into their emotions, striving to understand the roots of their feelings and to foster personal growth. Most notably, they are embracing their strengths, skills, and life experiences, which now empower them to be the individuals they aspire to be. If I had shared with them five or ten years ago a description of who they would become, it might have seemed a daunting prospect—perhaps too ambitious or unrealistic. This highlights a crucial point: none of these individuals arrived at their present selves through a singular, dramatic leap. Transformation unfolds gradually, often amidst the hard work, challenges, and frustrations that accompany growth.
These experiences are essential not only for the development of character but also for cultivating joy in both significant milestones and everyday moments. At a recent Hay Festival, the insightful Sarah Pascoe was posed a reflective question about her success and what advice she would give to her younger self, reminding us of the invaluable lessons and journeys that shape who we ultimately become.
The question posed to Sarah brought forth an outpouring of emotion, resonating deeply with the audience, myself included as I viewed it. Her response was a beacon of honesty and courage, addressing the vulnerability that often accompanies youth and the naivety of first heartbreaks. Sarah deftly unpacked the lessons that emerge from pain, illustrating how resilience is forged through overcoming challenges.
When reflecting on heartbreak, she poignantly noted that while the second experience might carry the same weight of sorrow, it also bears the gift of perspective—an understanding that healing is possible and that joy will return. This profound insight reinforces the journey of personal growth, which is rarely instantaneous but rather a gradual evolution guided by awareness and intentionality.
The principle of making one small change each day, or the One Degree Principle, serves as a powerful reminder that sustainable progress comes from taking incremental steps. As we navigate our paths and contemplate our futures, it becomes essential to clearly define our goals and consciously choose to move closer to the person we aspire to be—one step at a time.